1. Don’t intimidate or humiliate
  2. Don’t bring up old history. Focus on the current issue(s)
  3. Don’t put down your partner’s character
  4. Don’t set out to win
  5. Take healthy timeouts when needed
  6. Stay flexible and open to compromise and negotiate
  7. Bring up solutions vs. complaints
  8. Use resources available to you- books, clergy, classes, therapy